Sometimes we begin to ask questions when it is already too late.
“Why did you change?”
“When did it happen?”
“What did I miss?”
“Could we have saved it?”
These are the questions that accompany so many breakups.
Not because they are wrong — but because they arrive too late. Because we ask them when closeness has already faded, when silence has grown louder than what once felt natural.
And that is where their pain lies.
Perhaps this is a quiet tragedy of our time:
We talk a lot, but we ask too little.
We react instead of listening.
We analyze instead of feeling.
We explain instead of noticing.
And often, only at the very end, do we realize how little we truly knew about each other — despite having shared so much time.
Because closeness is not created by presence alone.
It is created by attention.
A relationship is not a puzzle to be solved one day.
Not a state to be reached and then secured.
It is an ongoing conversation.
With pauses.
With misunderstandings.
With countless small moments that ask to be noticed.
Not everything needs to be spoken immediately.
But much of it wants to be seen.
Mindfulness, in this context, does not mean discussing everything perfectly.
It doesn’t require endless conversations or ready-made answers.
Mindfulness means noticing early when something begins to grow quiet.
When glances become shorter.
When touches become rarer.
When something remains unspoken — not out of indifference, but out of uncertainty.
And this is where responsibility for each other begins.
What if we allowed ourselves to ask the questions we usually save for the end — right in the middle of everyday life?
Not out of fear of losing something.
But out of the desire to truly understand what is already there.
“How do you feel with me right now?”
“What do you need today?”
“What might I have overlooked?”
These are not easy questions.
But they are honest ones.
And they change relationships not because they provide immediate answers —
but because they create closeness before it’s too late.
This is exactly the thought from which Don’t Guess was born.
As a reminder that mindfulness is not a retrospective.
It exists in between.
A brief pause before moving on.
A quiet impulse that says:
Ask today.
Listen today.
Be here today.
Because most relationships don’t fail because of big moments.
Not because of one single event.
But because,
over time, we stop truly seeing each other.
